It's refreshing to see Smith's encouragement and realization from a peer. So many of our millennial peers continue to flee from the challenge of marriage, only to miss out on its transforming benefits.
This is why marriage needs to be about more than us, and also more than just about our spouses. If the focus is simply on lovingly pleasing another person, we will tire in striving to perfectly love them. Where do we find the example of how to selflessly love our spouses? Tim Keller addresses this directly in his book, The Meaning of Marriage.
"But ironically, this newer view of marriage actually puts a crushing burden of expectation on marriage and on spouses in a way that more traditional; understandings never did. And it leaves us desperately trapped between both unrealistic longing and terrible fears about marriage." -Tim Keller, The Meaning of MarriageThankfully, we are not without hope in our marriages. As Christians, we can look to the relationship that Christ has with us, the Church. This is why marriage was created; to allow us to reflect the sacrificial and redemptive relationship that the Lord has with us, his creation.
We need more millennials that share Seth Adam Smith's realization. Otherwise, marriage will simply be a burden to perform, rather than a covenantal environment in which we can freely love our husbands or wives. Let us not lose sight of the fact that marriage and love isn't simply about the person that you love. It's about the Person who loved us at our worst, and continues to love us.